Showing posts with label self improvement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self improvement. Show all posts

Friday, August 21, 2009

Can Self Help Be Dangerous?

Apparently so according to a segment on Sunrise this morning. However the self help they were referring to were 2-3 day seminars where participants were sleep deprived and forced to reveal deeply personal experiences in front of a huge audience.

I don't see that you need to be psychological expert (which I'm not) to see that this type of "self help" could be dangerous. After all sleep deprivation has been used as a form of torture long before it became a tool used by self help gurus.

Many years ago I particpated in one of these seminars called The Forum. I don't recall much about it, but I do remember being hassled by "volunteers" to become a volunteer myself. Apparently The Forum was the only true path to self fulfillment and enlightenment... And it could be all yours if you worked ridiculously long hours for zero recompense. Not that there's anything wrong with volunteering your time but I think you're better off volunteering your time to help people who, for whatever reason, can't help themselves. The Forum leaders definitely were not in that category!

One thing I do remember learning is that we shouldn't let fear stop us doing what we want to do. I wanted to go parachuting but was too scared.... So I went parachuting. Now that I'm much older and wiser (well defintely older) I'm starting to think I may have misinterpreted the real significance of moving beyond fear....

So, was this self help seminar a waste of time for me? I don't think so. At least it got me to go parachuting!

Hmmm, self help can indeed be dangerous!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Overhaul of Weight Loss Industry In Australia

I heard on the news this morning that weight loss programs will have to give details of how successful participants are in keeping off the weight two years after their initial participation.

Sounds good to me! Afterall, judging by all the testimonials you read on weight loss websites there are a lot of programs that work well in the short term.

However, long term success eludes many of us. Kilos that we worked so hard to lose simply creep back on and before we know it we are in a battle that we have very little chance of winning.

To add insult to injury this battle of continually losing and putting on weight is more dangerous to our health than being overweight in the first place. (so I remember reading somewhere)

For any chance of success in maintaining weight loss, weight loss programs must include working on your mind as well as your body!

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Friday, August 14, 2009

Nomophobia? Just stress and anxiety in my humble opinion.

Who has ever heard of nomophobia (the fear of being deprived of a mobile phone ie no mobile phone phobia)? I hadn't until I was listening to the radio while picking the kids up from school last night

And I must say I'm not surprised that such a phobia exists. Most of us are used to being able to contact our loved ones 24/7 no matter where they are or what they are doing.

If they fail to answer our call it's easy to get ourselves worked up into a frenzy of stress and anxiety wondering if an ambo will have the decency to search their contact lists for "mum" while resucsitating our precious offspring at the site of the worst accident in living memory.

Then total relief... They phone - they are OK (which is good because now you can kill them yourself). They didn't answer because they knew it was you and couldn't be bothered talking.

Oh, but they'll talk now. They've spent their bus money and need you to pick them up..... But not before you start explaining (loudly), in gruesome detail, the nightmare they put you through. Don't they understand how much you love them for heavens sake?

You begin to weigh up the pros and cons of grounding them. You decide against it as it's usually more of a punishment for you than them! Unfortunately, the scene is set for similar altercations in the future.

Whatever happened to the days when kids just went off for the day and came home only when they were hungry or it got dark? But don't let me start on that just yet! That's another issue.

The point is that mobile phones are another convenient way for stress and anxiety to manifest themselves. And they will manifest in some way or another unless you learn to tame them.

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Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Woe is Me

When times are tough, as with the current economic recession, it is always easy to give in to depression and constantly moan about the woes of life. There are just too many worries to constantly think about: bills to pay, family to care for, and so on. The problems never end. The fact is, they never do! As you make your journey through life, you will always encounter barriers and hurdles. These are trials meant to test your strength and improve your will. Rather than simply give up and cry your frustrations out, you may want to look around you and see that no one is exempt from problems.

Self pity may get you sympathy at first, but if this is a repetitive behavior, don’t be surprised if you lose friends along the way. When you’ve become the black hole for energy, people will avoid you like a plague. No one wants to be surrounded with sadness, and no one can take a whiner for too long a period. You have yet to meet the person who never struggles with frustration. This comes with the territory of being human. It is not wrong to be frustrated, but it is how we handle our frustration that counts.

One of the most effective ways to change how you react to negativity is to change how you see it and what you do about it. Self pity is a shortcut to the path of destruction. When you give in to depression, you are basically saying that you don’t have it in you to solve the problem. In fact, you are just aggravating the situation. You yell, curse, and cry, yet the problem still remains unsolved.

On the other hand, a more productive solution would be to view frustration is as a chance for improving your abilities to solve the problem. If you get frustrated, try to have an outlet. Go talk to a friend, visit a specialist, or pound that hammer away in your garage. You need to let it out and find a way to express your explosive emotions rather than keep it locked inside. If this is your constant practice, expect the dam to break sooner or later. Instead, ask yourself what the possible solutions are. The thing about self-pity is that if you can't get others to feel sorry for you, you can always just feel sorry for yourself.

Pity parties are always a party of one because no one wants to be on the guest list. Just know that when you catch yourself in this state, you tend to lose perspective. You lose sight of the big picture and will be unable to spot the solution that may just be right under your nose. When you are too caught up in your problems, you’ll be too busy to even notice the faintest flicker of hope.

You must find ways to bounce back. Be the victor, not the victim. Life is a marathon, and your goal should be not to win it all the time. Instead, you need to focus on your running and learning not to quit. Instead of making excuses on your failure, you must learn to get back up and let your creative juices flow so that you can achieve what you want most. Have a worthwhile goal, one that deserves a spot in your loved ones’ minds. If your life were a book, let it fall under the inspirational category.

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Friday, July 24, 2009

Feel Energetic in Any Situation

Staying upbeat and positive, despite problems, is difficult to do. What tends to happen in difficult situations is that our focus shifts to the negative eventually making us angry. Anger dissipates our energy depleting our mental and physical resources and we are left sulking and moping about. Not a very productive state for problem solving to say the least.

The good news is that each and every one of us has a place of tranquility and peace deep inside us. And this place can be accessed even when we are faced with the most difficult of circumstances. When we are in this place we feel energetic. This is where we need to be when problem solving, it’s a powerful position.

When we feel energetic any difficulties can be quickly dealt with. Then we dust ourselves down, get back up and move on ready to face more of whatever life wants to throw at us. In the meantime we are growing and developing as a person.

That’s all very well, but how do you get to this state?

One way is to exercise. Regular exercise is a way to safely release frustrations and anger. Exercise increases serotonin and endorphin levels giving you a natural high!

Another strategy is to meditate. Meditating for at least 20 minutes a day has enormous benefits for your mental health.

Also, maintaining good relationships with your family and friends ensures you are loved and supported through difficult situations. Often times being able to talk about difficult issue will dissipate the negative energy that will pull you down.

Ensuring you get enough rest is crucial. Being sleep deprived not only makes you feel physically awful but makes any situation seem worse than it actually is.

Coping with problems is a learned skill that you will quickly master when you follow these simple tips. Regular exercise, meditation, good relationships and plenty of rest give your mind the fuel it needs to feel energetic to operate efficiently, effectively and, most importantly, happily.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Making Friends and Keeping Them

Making friends doesn’t mean we have to do put all our efforts into doing absolutely anything to win their friendship. Truth is there are just some people we will never get along with and trying to make friends with them is just a waste of time. People we befriend tend to have similar views on life or share similar interests or hobbies to us.

To make friends it also helps if we are they type of person people like to be friends with. Positive, energetic people will always have more friends than negative, lazy people. Let’s face it what type of person would you prefer to spend your time with?

Most of us tend to avoid pessimists (or should) because they will forever try to smash your dreams and come up with reasons why you will fail. Do not be one of them.

A lot of pessimists tend to operate under the guise of being realists! Are you doing that? Do you tend to point out all the reasons why someone is more likely to fail instead of encouraging them to succeed?

Exude a positive aura and you will never lack for friends. Communicate your inner glow and be willing to share your “secret” with others. When you help make others feel good about themselves you have just made the world a better place!

If you are forcing yourself to be positive and feel you are being insincere it simply means you have to work more on yourself. Start using affirmations, read inspirational books – whatever it takes to make your realize you can have it all!

Developing great friendships is simply a matter of outlook. Each and every one of us is unique and special . You have talents and traits your friends don’t have and they have talents and traits you don’t have. This makes life colorful and interesting.

It is through being positive that we can truly know what our strengths are and further enhance them so that we can help others in ways that they can’t do for themselves. If everyone was living their best life the ties between all human beings would become much stronger!

Monday, July 20, 2009

Living A Life You Love

A lot of people lead a life that’s a daily grind, fixing mistakes made by others and still answerable to someone else for their actions. Who wants that? No one! But the fact that many live this kind of life means that something is terribly wrong.
It’s about time to start living a life you love. Start aligning your actions according to your values. There is no reason to not lead your best life each and every moment.

Remember that you are the master of your own destiny. No one is forcing you to be where you are right now. If you simply live your life to seek approval from others you will be living with regret some time in future. And I’m sure you don’t want that!

Just realize that every life, including yours, is valuable. Even when things do become mundane you make contributions to the life of others that no one else can make. Know what is important in your life right now or you will soon forget living your best life. You’ll become distracted by other activities such as work, paying bills, economic crisis and any other number pressing problems that make us lose sight of our goals and dreams.

How about a system where you make a list of things you want to do. Boring, I know – but it is valuable to have an actual representation of all your life’s goals. Teachers of success principles teach about the value of such a practice. Top priority on this list must be you! Have time to maintain your health and to nuture your relationships. Afterall, life won’t be very happy if your health and relationships are crumbling.

Remember that life is a journey so whether you are 20 or 80 years old it’s not too late to get into the game. Get into the thick of things and start living and achieving. Always remember that every mistake along the way simply means that you’re one step closer to success!

The only obligation is this life is to be the best you can be. Live your life according to what you want and what makes you happy – not someone elses definition of success and happiness. Start ticking off those goals on your list and start living your best life.

If you’re concerned that this sounds selfish and self absorbed please know that the world will be a much better place when you are fulfilled. We don’t need any more unfulfilled, miserable people in this world.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Making Healthy Relationships Possible

Life is one great big workout. We strive to keep a balance on the things that are in it and often find ourselves burned out. We often have to juggle our time between our personal needs and the demands of our career that we sometimes find ourselves breathless, as if we had to focus all our energies into fulfilling all our duties. The 24 hours that are allotted to us each day is just not enough. We encounter problems and try to take every single setback with a grain of salt. The truth, however, is that life is what we make of it.

Part of life's experience is that we encounter relationships that sour over time. Let this be a learning experience. In the end, there are just some things we cannot control, things that are out of our hands. For relationships to remain healthy, we need to look at ourselves first.

We must evaluate our actions and see what caused the problem in the first place. We can start by evaluating ourselves before implementing the changes from within. We cannot control the actions of other people. So instead of dwelling on what we cannot be in command of, we have to work on what we can change. It's imperative for all of us to know the things that will enable us to become a friend, a colleague, and a partner that we want to become.

The first thing to assess is our worth and the value we have as a person. Are we the kind of friend to go the extra mile? Are we good confidants? Do we take our friends' needs into consideration? These are only a few of the many questions we can ask ourselves. When the answer always leads to the negative, then maybe it's high time that we think of our nature.

The next thing to do is measure our level of commitment. Oftentimes, we don't equate the longevity of our relationships with the kind of person we are. Of course, every situation is unique. We meet people along the way, and not many of them make ideal friends. The thing is, we have to know the cause for the breakdown of every bond we've created.

Then, we also weigh these against the relationships that have actually worked. We must commit ourselves to every association we find beneficial. What gets us through life's rough patches are the people that we've helped. After all, no man is an island. We need support during the most difficult of times, and the only way to make this possible is to become a true friend to the people we have in our lives.

When all is said and done, we should know and realize that we are good people. We deserve these friendships because we don't expect anything from them in return. People are naturally inclined to show kindness to those who are genuine with their deeds. As long as we stay true to ourselves, we can also say that we are comfortable with whom we are. It's when we are happy that we create ideal relationships.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Being Productive Despite Your Workload

We all have goals that we want to achieve, dreams that we want to attain. Our goals differ from each other, but reaching these may not be as easy as it looks. Yes, you have the perfect work attitude, and yes, also know how to prioritize. There are, however, some things in life that you just cannot control.

A sudden blackout may hinder you from completing your work, or an important family gathering may require you to let go of all your chores. What do you do when this time comes? Do you blame the things you cannot control for your failures? While this may be the easy way out, it is far from being right.

Life is made up of two types of people: the positive and the negative. The positive tend to win all the time because they also take responsibility for their failures by embracing them. The negative, on the other hand, simply walk away and point their finger at everyone but themselves.

How do you win in life? How do you become a productive person while being able to keep a very busy work schedule? The first thing you must know and accept is that you simply cannot win every time. It's what you do when you fail that counts. Here are some helpful tips to know and follow so that you can go through trials and misfortunes as smoothly as possible:

1. Don't blame other people for your failure - to blame them is to pass on your responsibilities. This is tantamount to throwing your arms up in the air and saying, “I give up!”

2. When problems arise, deal with them accordingly - plan what you need to do. Ask for help if you need to and let failures serve as lessons learned.

3. Never forget - remember what caused you to create the mistake in the first place. Keep these in mind and avoid situations wherein you'll be forced to make the same mistake twice.

4. Never let anything stop you - as you strive for success, there will always be hurdles to face. These hurdles simply slow you down, but that's all they will do.

5. Plan your life - make a careful schedule for each task to be done. No matter how many tasks there are, each undertaking achieved allows you to cross something off your list of things that have yet to be done.

6. Know that you are in control of your life - have a firmer grip on your responsibilities. Familiarize yourself with each objective and do research if you must. The more you know about something, the easier it will be for you navigate your way through it.

7. Think positive - this may be the most important thing you can ever do. Believe in yourself and in your abilities. You simply have to meet achievers to know that these people are the ones who believe in themselves the most. Success is not so much about talent, but more on the idea that with effort and an optimistic attitude, you can do most anything.

Productive people are those who know what they're doing. You can be one of them if you simply work on honing your talents and abilities. It's a matter of fine-tuning and letting yourself be more in touch with the aspects in your life.

Remember, nobody is excused from making mistakes. The fact is, every living person has made many of them. You simply have to figure out what you need to do to attain every single dream that you have.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

5 Herbs To Fortify Your Immunity

My mother had scleroderma, an autoimmune disease. I have celiac disease which can apparently be a precursor to autoimmune diseases.

Suffice to say, I don't waste time focussing on these issues because I believe that what you focus on you attract....

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Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Achieving Supreme Health With Affirmations

Many of us wish to lose weight or get in better shape. Perhaps you're concerned about your health and have made the decision to take better care of your body. Are there things you could be doing to be healthier? If so, you're not alone!

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regards
Sharon

Monday, June 15, 2009

10 Tips and Tricks to Get A Good Nights Sleep

A good nights sleep is an important part of a healthy lifestyle. But it's not just about how many hours you get, but the actual quality of sleep matters, too. After all, 8 hours of tossing and turning won’t do you any good!

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Monday, June 8, 2009

Simplifying Your Life

We often make our lives more difficult than they need to be, so when we dial it down a notch and make things simpler, our stress levels will fall. When you are stressed out and you can't seem to find a moment of peace for yourself, you probably need to simplify your life.

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Getting Things Done Quickly and Efficiently

Did you know that you are capable of so much more than you are doing now? Getting things done quickly and efficiently is easy when you learn to tap into the full power of your brain.

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Sunday, June 7, 2009

Sciatic Sufferers: Treat Sciatica Now Review

I have suffered with sciatica in the past which, thanks to my chiropractor and exercise, has completely disappeared.

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If you are a current sciatica sufferer my hope is that this will offer you relief.


Sharon

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Top 7 Reasons Stress Affects Your Health

Are you constantly feeling stressed? Stress is something we all encounter on a regular basis, but when it starts to have a negative effect on your body and mind, it means you are distressed.

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Enjoy the weekend!
Sharon

Finding Motivation In The Little Things

Many people have a difficult time finding the motivation to get things done. The biggest misconception is that motivation will simply fall from the sky and everything will be swell. Unfortunately, that's not how the world works. You need to be proactive!

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Enjoy!
Sharon

Saturday, May 23, 2009

Affirmations Do Work!

Not that anyone has any doubts about it, I'm sure....

Just wanted to let you know about this short video (about 2 minutes) on Law of Attraction. Affirmations aren't mentioned specifically but she talks about asking the universe for what you want and then stating that you already have it. It's called pre-paving.

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Have a great weekend.


Sharon

Friday, May 22, 2009

5 Hypnosis Myths Exploded

OVER the years, hypnosis has picked up all sorts of weird associations from stage hypnotists, the media and superstition. This is a great shame, because in reality, hypnosis is your single most effective tool for change. Hypnosis is your birthright, and you should know how to use it so it doesn't use you. Here we dispel the biggest hypnosis myths.

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Monday, May 18, 2009

Are You Suffering From Anxiety or Panic Attacks?

Do you feel anxious before a dental visit or starting something new? Most of us do! It’s normal to have such fears. However, if your fears become debilitating or prevent you from performing your usual activities, you could have an anxiety or panic disorder.

Anxiety and panic disorders are overwhelming conditions, and many of us suffer from them. To better understand if your anxious feelings could be a sign of an anxiety or panic disorder, let’s take a look at some of the symptoms.


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